Where there is no Love

October 3, 2021

When I first started this blog back in 2017, I had this little idea that I would just put down some of the thoughts I had regarding marriage.  Maybe just some of the ideas or considerations I had about being married and directed to both husbands and wives.

A really long time ago I when I had all the kids at home someone told me that a really great idea to be way more productive was to wait until all the children and my wife had gone to bed and then spend the extra 10 to 12 hours reading or writing or working – giving  up a night’s sleep to get more done.

And so I tried it for a few weeks – what a lousy idea – it’s so disordered and messes you up – like God got it wrong with only 24 hours in a day – I had to go ahead and try to put in a 32 hour day.

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Chivalry – dead or alive?

June 19, 2022

I read a really great article on Mark Merrill’s blog a few years ago, and i just found a copy I printed then to remind me, so I thought it would be worth sharing.  By the way, if you don’t already read articles by Mark – you should!  His website is here:  www.markmerrill.com.  And his wife Susan has a blog directed to wives here:  www.imom.com.

As usual, he says a lot of important things – things for us to consider, and not just consider, but to actually act on and do.

Here’s an excerpt from him article:

The next time you are acting like a gentleman toward your wife, take a moment to reflect on what other ways you are demonstrating that same kind of care in your marriage, or maybe where you are missing it. Courtesy and chivalry do not make women inferior; if anything, they elevate women. They don’t say that women are incapable, they say that men are supposed to love selflessly. Being a chivalrous man will strengthen your marriage.

Read the whole article here:

Chivalry may not quite be dead, but it’s certainly on life support.

In His Sacred Heart,



We are being watched!

June 12, 2022

And no, I’m not talking about the NSA the Russians or Google.

Someone sent us a link to an article last week in which the author reminded all of us that our marriage isn’t just for us – that our marriage is actually a living visible example to the rest of the world – and we have no idea the good we do by living a really Catholic Marriage.

It reminded me of another article I read – with a similar message – about how we are all being watched – by other couples, and by teens and young adults who are considering their own married life.

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