All of us come home.
Whether we’re accountants or programmers or teachers or farmers or soldiers, and whether it’s daily or weekly or longer, all of us have to step out of the fight and come home.
There’s a completely different set of skills we use when we provide for our families. We have to be decisive, abrupt, aggressive, firm, and for most of us, we have to go, go, go. There’s little rest and less calm, and to survive and perform well, we have to embrace the chaos, and by the end of the day, we’re physically and mentally spent. And if things aren’t going well in our professions, that stress drains our emotional energy as well.
And when we finally come home, at the end of the day or week or trip or tour, we just want some peace and calm and refreshment and consolation…
But if you don’t take some time and transition between your job slaying dragons for your family and your job as head of the castle, not only will you NOT get that peace, but your decisive, firm, tough ‘get this crap done, and get it done NOW’ approach will slam into your wife and children and leave everyone hurt, including you.
We need an AIRLOCK!!!
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Something that is so important in our daily lives, as wives, is so often missed, and that is truly welcoming our husband when he comes home. It is easy to just yell from the other room, “Hi, honey, I’m in here.” However, I believe that to go greet him is the best way. Even if he works at home, in the field, or in the shop, he needs to know that you care.
How to greet our husbands is another question. We want them to know how much we appreciate them for fulfilling their duty by working to provide for us and our children. We take it for granted that he will get up and go to work. I have been fortunate to be a stay at home mom and wife. Yes, I have done sewing to help when needed, but I have never had to worry that my husband would shirk his duty in caring for us.
I have greeted him in the following ways, and I must say that he knows he is appreciated and that we are happy to see him after his long days.
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St. Valentine’s Day is upon us, and the question is “What will I do to show my husband my love for him?” We women sometimes get caught in the “It’s all about me” syndrome. We hope that he will do something amazing for us, and forget that the question should be, what will we do for him.
One gift that truly came from my heart and meant a lot to him was an admiration/inspiration/coupon jar. It costs practically nothing. You just need a jar, paper and ribbon. Oh, and don’t forget the imagination.
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