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Where there is no Love

When I first started this blog, I had this little idea that I would just put down some of the thoughts I had regarding marriage. Maybe just some of the ideas or considerations I had about being married and directed to both husbands and wives.

A really long time ago when I had all the kids at home someone told me that a really great idea to be way more productive was to wait until all the children and my wife had gone to bed and then spend the extra 10 to 12 hours reading or writing or working – giving up a night's sleep to get more done.

And so I tried it for a few weeks – what a lousy idea – it's so disordered and messes you up – like God got it wrong with only 24 hours in a day – I had to go ahead and try to put in a 32 hour day...

Remember the Sunrise

I don't want to be overly morbid, but I've meaning to send this for awhile because it's been on my mind. I need this message, too.

Count to 3. Seriously—1, 2, 3…

In that time, across the world, five people have died. And I'm not making that number up. The number of people that die each year is approximately 58 million. If you do the math, that means almost two people die every second of every day.

By the time you've read this far, another 30 people have died...

It's on the Men

If we're being honest—and I know I'm not as honest as I should be, way more than I'd like to admit—I believe we could say the vast majority of problems in our marriages are on us. They're on the men, the husbands. Me, you, (your husband if you're a wife reading this.) It's on us.

I think about how we love watching movies where real men shine—guys who overcome their weaknesses, rise up, and become champions. It's no wonder those stories pull us in. Women watch because they're longing for that in their husbands. Men watch because we want to be that...

The Girl in the Mirror

One of my favorite books on marriage is For Men Only. If you haven't read it, I highly recommend it! It even comes with a quick start guide – perfect for men! One chapter, titled The Girl in the Mirror, is especially powerful, and I want to share its core message with you this week. But don't stop here – get the book and read it!

If you have daughters, you already know this truth. If you don't, you can easily observe it: Little girls are born with an innate desire to be lovely. They twirl in dresses, admire their bows and ribbons, and delight in all things beautiful. But it's not just about owning pretty things – they want to be pretty themselves...

Valentine's Day for the Ladies

Valentine's Day: A Love Letter to Your Husband Valentine's Day is here again—the season of roses, chocolates, and over-the-top romance. But let's be honest—this day often feels like it's for...

Valentine's Day for the Men

Make This Valentine's Day Unforgettable—for Her and for You

So, Valentine's Day is here once again. The whole country is nudging you—no, pushing you—to demonstrate your love for your wife. Everything is pink, red, and heart-shaped, and whether you like it or not, love is in the air.

But let's skip the part where you say, "Well, she told me not to worry about it. She said she doesn't care about Valentine's Day and doesn't want anything special."

Because she does care...

There's still something to be learned

I read an article by Mark Merrill that really resonated with me. He compared marriage to a classroom—one where we are always students, constantly learning about our spouse. His insight was a great reminder that when we said "I do," we didn't just commit to love our spouse, we committed to understanding them, growing with them, and deepening our knowledge of who they are...