Well, there’s been a lot of pretty heavy emails lately, so I thought we’d change it up and give you something lighter.
Almost everyone has seen the video at the bottom of this post, but it’s so true, it’s worth a re-watch if you have, and a couple of watches if you haven’t.
But hold, on! Don’t make the mistake of watching this video from the wrong angle – that wives are clueless – and won’t accept simple solutions to obvious problems.
I do it more often than I care to admit. I’m a problem solver, and when Melissa comes to me with a problem, I jump to solve it – step-by-step, with diagrams and charts – the whole 9 yards.
But how arrogant! How Presumptuous! How Silly! This smart, talented and beautiful woman solves dozens of problems a day, from the kids, to bills, feeding our family healthy on half what it takes, keeping the house clean while thing 1 and thing 2 race in opposite directions to destroy it, and trying her best to care for me in all my various moods of man-gruffness.
Our wives, almost all of them, take on the suffering of those around them while in the midst of trying to help. They don’t sympathize. Instead, they really feel the pain, and asking them to NOT feel, like we can do, is impossible, because that’s how they were built.
What they need, then, isn’t for us to solve the problem. It’s to hold them, and love them, and wrap them into our arms where they feel protected – and they can rest for awhile.
Don’t fix it – it’s not about the nail.