Make This Valentine’s Day Unforgettable—for Her and for You
So, Valentine’s Day is here once again. The whole country is nudging you—no, pushing you—to demonstrate your love for your wife. Everything is pink, red, and heart-shaped, and whether you like it or not, love is in the air.
But let’s skip the part where you say, “Well, she told me not to worry about it. She said she doesn’t care about Valentine’s Day and doesn’t want anything special.”
Because she does care.
Maybe not about the flowers. Maybe not about the chocolate. Maybe not about a fancy dinner reservation.
But she cares about you.
More than anything, she wants to know that you still see her, that you still desire her—that even after one year, ten years, or forty years of marriage, she is still the love of your life.
Don’t Just Check the Boxes—Give Her Your Heart
This isn’t about buying a card, picking up roses, and making a dinner reservation just because that’s what Valentine’s Day tells you to do. That’s fine, but that’s not your heart.
Instead, take time—real, meaningful time—to consider her. Think about the woman she is, the life you’ve built together, and the ways you can make her feel cherished in a way that’s deeply personal.
Here are some simple, heartfelt ideas to get you started. Use these as sparks to create something uniquely yours this Valentine’s Day.
- Buy a blank card instead of a typical Valentine’s Day card and write your own message. If words don’t come easily to you, something as simple as:
“You are my life. I may not always find the right words, but I need you to know—I love you more than anything in this world.” - Buy her a single rose—her favorite color—or, if you know she prefers a different flower, surprise her with that instead.
- Wake up earlier than her and bring her coffee in bed, served on a little tray with the nicest cup you have.
- Watch the sunrise together.
- Or the sunset.
- Take a walk—just the two of you. Hold her hand, like you did when you were falling in love.
- Wait until the kids are in bed… then give her a slow, thoughtful foot massage with lotion, without expecting anything in return.
- Find your wedding song. Pull it up on Spotify, YouTube, or even an old CD. After dinner, take her in your arms and dance with her—to the entire song. Then whisper, “I would marry you again, and again, and again.”
- Write little love notes on sticky notes—things you adore about her—and place them in unexpected spots where she’ll find them throughout the day.
- Kiss her 50 times on Valentine’s Day—without her realizing you’re keeping count.
- And sure, if you have the time and money, take her out to dinner—but make it someplace quiet, someplace where you can truly see her and be with her.
It’s Not About the Money—It’s About You
At the heart of all these ideas is one simple truth: It’s not about how much you spend. It’s about how much of yourself you put into loving her.
Be creative. Be thoughtful. Be you.
Most of all, don’t let this be just another Valentine’s Day. Make it yours.
Make it hers.
Because loving her well is one of the greatest things you will ever do.
In His Sacred Heart,
Timothy